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Dustin and I did not live together before we got married, so moving in together and learning how to cohabitate (on top of figuring out how to be married) was quite the adventure. We had to figure out who was responsible for doing the dishes, who was in charge of the trash duty and the balance between spending time doing our individual hobbies and doing things together. I don’t think I’d say that the first year of marriage was the hardest for us, but it was a challenge in a different way compared to other years of our marriage.
One of the biggest challenges we faced? Learning how to share a bed together.
I love my husband with all of my heart, but Dustin is a very loud sleeper. When we first got married, he was a sleep talker and thrasher. At first, it was adorable because he would wake me up in the middle of the night (he was still dreaming/asleep) and would ask “Chelsie! Chelsie! Are you okay?!” and every night I would tell him sleepily “Yes, I’m just sleeping!” It was cute that he was dreaming and concerned for my safety until it was happening every night. Dustin’s sleep talking habits slowly evolved as he started working for a car rental agency, and before I knew it, he was trying to rent me cars in his sleep. And then, one night I woke up to finding him sitting straight up in the bed, moving the sheets around as if he was looking for something. When I asked if he was okay he asked me: “Do we have a pet spider?! Because if we do, I think it wriggled out of its leash and is now in the bed.” It took me a few minutes to get him to wake up and realize that he was having a dream and that there was not a pet spider loose in our sheets.
My sweet husband also happens to be a really loud mouth breather when he’s sleeping, and over this last year, it’s gotten to be really hard for me to sleep soundly next to him. If I’m not asleep before he falls asleep, I usually have to get earplugs so I can block out his sleep sounds.
Guys, I work from home, and as some of you know, I struggle with my stamina/endurance levels. If I don’t get a solid night of sleep, I will waste my day away napping and not get anything done. I would get really grumpy with Dustin (even though he couldn’t control it) because of how terribly I was sleeping. Turns out, sleeping on the couch was just not healthy for our marriage or for me. We realized we needed to find some solutions and figure out how to make sure we both got a good night of rest without having to give up the comfort of our memory foam mattress.
Now, I don’t share these things about my husband to dog on him or make him sound terrible. I share these struggles because I know that I’m not alone and want to share our nighttime routine to anyone who may be in the same boat as us.