Dustin and I are approaching 4 years of marriage in March and 7 years of being together in May. It’s absolutely insane to me that we’ve been together for that long – I mean, I can’t imagine my life without him, but 7 years is a long time! Our marriage has been filled with ups and downs, some really hard things, and some really beautiful things, too.
We get asked a lot (especially living in Utah) when we’re going to start having kids. While I strongly believe that this isn’t anyone’s business but ours, I wanted to talk about it for just a second to make sure that we’re all on the same page. One of the reasons why we haven’t even started planning for kids is because I’ve got a myriad of health issues/complications that are lingering from chemo that will make pregnancy a bit more complex. We’ve been moving around so much over the last two years and I wouldn’t have been able to find a doctor to stick with who could help monitor some of those health concerns. Another reason? We’re just not in a huge rush! We just wanted to really enjoy our time together as a married couple, really figure our relationship out, become financially stable and take the time to find career paths that made us happy. While I’m not saying (or judging) anyone who has done things differently, this is what has made us happy and has worked for us.
All of that being said, now that we’re finally settling down in one place for a while, Dustin and I are certainly getting closer to wanting to start our family. Not anytime in the immediate future – but we both feel like we’re getting closer to wanting it. At the beginning of the year, we sat down and chatted about some goals we had as a married couple for 2017 – goals that we both felt like it was important for us to achieve before we decided to have a family. So, instead of a monthly goals post, I’m going to open up and share some of those today.
*Please know that this is not me giving you marriage advice – but simply opening up about the things that work for my marriage!*